Whether or not you have planned to make a big change in your life, when you experience a major transition, it is not uncommon for other changes to tag along. And then you might notice that other changes start happening and then some more. And before you know it, you have made a cascade of changes in your life. Marriages, divorces, loss of loved ones, moves, career and job changes are some of the usual causal suspects. All of these big changes will start a ripple effect in your life.
I am going through that experience right now. It started when my dad passed away in January. As prepared as one might be for the eventuality of parents passing, even if they are over 90, the experience is a huge transition for your life. And as with any loss transition, the grief bleeds into other aspects of your life.
When faced with one huge change in your life, somehow it feels natural to question everything else. It’s kind of like peeling off a layer of an onion—once you start it, it is easy to pull off more layers. Or the layers might naturally come apart even if you don’t want them to. Then when all the layers have been unpacked you are left with a blank slate. You might feel as if you are starting over again. That can be daunting or it can be freeing depending on how you look at it. If you approach it as a chance for improvement or redirection or reinvention, then you can consciously decide to create a new way.
As a psychologist and life coach, I am naturally inclined to look at all aspects of life and question what I want and ask what are my dreams, what are my goals. I do this often and quite in depth at the start of each year. But after going through a major transition that can happen at any time in your life, you might be surprised to find that your goals have shifted. What you wanted before the life-changing event just might have less or more importance to you now. New desires will emerge. New doors will open.
If you are going through your own personal shift in life, give yourself the time and space you need to grieve. Then when you are ready, I encourage you to consider the different parts of your life to see if you want to make some changes. All areas are up for grabs. Your physical environment like where you live as well as your office. Your relationships with colleagues, friends, family and partner. Your physical health and wellness. Often overlooked, your fun and recreation. And one of my personal favorite areas, self-development and learning. (Click here for your Free Dreaming and Planning Guide.)
Life is always changing, whether you want it to or not. So allow the flow to take you along for the ride and see if you can emerge with some new insight. Use your experience as fuel for expanding the depth and joy of your magical life.