It’s not uncommon to feel stuck. Perhaps you are someone who feels stuck in your job, stuck where you live, stuck in a relationship, or even stuck in life. Often the biggest place you get stuck is in your head. In other words, you are stuck thinking the same thing over and over again. And when you think the same thing over and over again, it limits your ability to come up with solutions or paths forward. Same thinking keeps you from finding ways that are different. And that keeps you from making changes. And when you don’t make changes, you stay in the same place. So not surprisingly, being stuck in your thoughts keeps you stuck in your situation.
Although it isn’t always necessary to make changes, in general, I am a big fan of making progress, moving ahead, evolving, growing, learning, going forward, leading the way. All of these are expressions that indicate that you are moving towards something. When you move forward in life, you experience feelings of accomplishment, self-worth, success and a sense that you are living a full and meaningful life.
But here’s the thing I find over and over again when working with clients and also with myself. If you don’t know where you are headed, then you won’t get anywhere. In the words of Steve Goodman from his song I remember well from my childhood, you’ve got The I Don’t Know Where I’m Going But I’m Going Nowhere In A Hurry Blues. You meander along in life and make no progress because you don’t have a clear vision of where you want to go. You stay stuck going through the motions of a job or of some aspect of your life because you don’t know what you’d rather do. Sometimes it’s not just because you don’t have a clear vision. Often you don’t have a clue at all what you want to do.
“If only I knew what I wanted to do, I’d do it!” I have thought that and heard that in one form or another many, many times. You know that you are stuck, but you can’t imagine an alternative. The solution of course, is not in this blog or to be found anywhere outside of you. The answer to “What should I do?” resides only inside you. The trick is uncovering what you want, desire, love, need, crave, enjoy or just want to do—for now!
That last point might help you quite a bit. If you feel overwhelmed that you must figure out the one true thing you must do, then you are setting yourself up to never make any progress. There is probably not one perfect thing you are supposed to do. Instead, know that all you really need to figure out is what you will do next. Then at some later point, you will figure out what you need to do next again. And then again…and then again. It would be lovely if you had a huge comprehensive vision and plan for your life—there are few people who do—but more often than not, you don’t have a grand plan. It is up to you to find a way forward if you want to get unstuck.
So I urge you to envision a progress plan—for now (check out Visioning Your Future: Get Your Head Up In The Clouds for visioning tactics). Perhaps you will be rewarded with a bigger plan somewhere along the line. But don’t stop making advancements and movement ahead just because you haven’t found your grandmaster plan. Find a way forward and know that if you have come up with a first step that is true to you and comes from inside of you, then know that you will continue to make forward moves and you will get somewhere. You will get unstuck and develop to where you want to be, even if it takes repeated attempts. And there will be no more “nowhere in a hurry blues” for you!