Your first thought may be, “What on earth is Rachel speaking about? Magic? Really?” Let me explain. Not long ago I was listening to a keynote presentation at a conference when I was overcome with emotion. The weepiness was a gut reaction to validation of what I know to be true in my life: there is magic in emotion that must be revealed! I was so incredibly moved while listening to David Whyte. I loved the cadences of his voice as he recited his poetry or just informally talked to us. He was so real and vulnerable, even while standing in front of several hundred people. Sure, we were all life coaches so in general receptive to conversations of this sort, but David Whyte goes into corporate America and shares just the same way. He deftly facilitates big company meetings with all the usual bigwigs but he doesn’t dial down the woo-woo and emotion. He makes no division between who he is depending on the context.
The weeping I experienced listening to the presentation was because of the realization of how many years in business I held back my authentic self and emotions more than I wanted to (and I did reveal a lot more than most others in that context). And the tears that my body released were in direct response to how David Whyte powerfully revealed his true self. His impact on everyone he interacts with is magical.
He is unlike many in the world who put on a costume when they step into the business world. They play the part of leader, or of follower, wear the suit, wear the face and act the way they think they are supposed to act. Now, that isn’t to say that all of how they behave is unnatural and fake to who they are. But in all likelihood, they have held back on certain aspects of their personal style in order to fit in to the environment. David Whyte doesn’t do that in the least and he isn’t seen as weak—in fact he is very successful. Marianne Williamson, Martha Beck, Oprah, Deepak Chopra are doing that too and they are all creating magic in the real world. Lately the list of successful people who bring their whole self—warts and all—to the world is growing. I think that trend is very exciting and I hope that more people are catching on to the power of being authentic and not trying to put on a certain mask in different situations.
When you are true to your emotional self and express your feelings, magic happens. And by magic I mean that you get more of what you want out of life, you impact others greatly and you will be rewarded with more success and joy.
What I experienced too often is that people—not just in the business world—too frequently hold back on revealing their full selves, all the mushy and awkward truths about their own experience in the world. Yes it is scary to be vulnerable and share your true feelings and desires. But it is so needed in the world! I loved a post my friend Laurel recently put on her Facebook page where she says how grateful she is that she doesn’t have a Muggle job (for those of you not familiar with Harry Potter that would be non-magical or non-traditional jobs). And I know what she means—she does nourishing soul work and she gets to be true to her own voice. I am so grateful that I now do magical work too—as a celebrant creating love story wedding ceremonies and as a life coach helping people be true to themselves in their whole life.
It is time that we bring all of the raw emotion and softness of our real and best selves to the Muggle world too. Those of you who are in a Muggle job will blossom if you bring your authentic self to work. Allowing your natural messy humanness to shine in all aspects of life and work—instead of playing a prescribed role—works like magic. You will be astounded by what genuine connection you will create with others, how much more effective and successful you will be and how much more calm you will feel. Be silly, be real, be excellent, be magical, be whoever you are, wherever you are!