Quitting Is Positive If Done For The Right Reasons
Quitting is such a loaded word. On the one hand it is generally seen as a very positive action when you are quitting things that are bad for your health, like smoking. On the other hand, if you try something new and find that it isn’t working out so you decide to stop, or you leave a job, you might feel like you are a quitter and others might call you a quitter in the negative sense. I tried knitting last year because I thought a Zen-like activity with my hands might be calming. However, I found it very frustrating and not relaxing at all. So after over a month of giving it my best, taking classes and going to knitting circles, I decided to quit. And yet, even though I was only quitting a simple hobby, I felt a little pang of “not sticking with it.” We are taught at a young age that quitting is bad, that quitting means you are a failure. But quitting is positive when you stop something that is no longer serving you. I am not saying that whenever the going gets tough you should give up and quit. Before you quit, give it your best before you decide whether to stop. Sticking it out when something truly no longer serves you, however, is a waste of time and drains your energy.
Quitting A Job That Is Draining You
Quitting a job is that is draining is one of the most positive quitting activities you can do. Though others might have a negative reaction to your leaving, there are many reasons why they feel that way. They might be jealous that you had the guts to leave and they don’t. They might not understand why you don’t love your job because they love their job at the same company. They might be envious that you figured out how to leave. They might even feel abandoned. All this has nothing to do with you. Although it would be wonderful if everyone else cheered and was excited that you took control of your own destiny and decided to quit, it can be understandably difficult for others. So leave their feelings to them and congratulations to you for deciding to quit. Quitting a job is not easy. And quitting is not a bad word when you are quitting for the right reasons. Quitting something that no longer serves you is a very, very positive action.
What Serves You Serves Others
When you quit a job that is dragging you down for whatever reasons, not only is taking that action serving you, it is also serving your colleagues at work and friends and family in the rest of your life. Think of it this way. When you are doing work that makes you unhappy, those around you sense your negativity. Even if you are still doing excellent work and are good at hiding your feelings, your attitude and negative energy is not helpful. So quitting a job that no longer serves you, is actually serving your company. And it is helping your family too because who needs a grumpy parent or spouse coming home from work each day? No one! Sure, it is essential that you create a plan for your exit at your job so that you don’t leave your company in the lurch. But if you stick around because you think they can’t live without you or you think you can’t live without them yet you remain miserable, you are not doing you or them any favors. Similarly, your family and friends will be much happier when you are not miserable. Again, you need an exit plan so that your financials and next steps are figured out before you leave.
Plan To Quit, Don’t Quit Before You Plan
You don’t need a plan if you want to try out lots of hobbies and quit them if they don’t work out. Go forth and have some fun! Keep trying and quitting until you find some challenging activities that give you joy (see How To Find A Hobby You Love for more ideas). But if you are thinking about quitting your job, having an exit plan is essential. In most cases, you should create the plan behind the scenes so to speak. I loved my job for many years and then I came to a point when I was no longer passionate about the work. So I left my corporate role after I spent over a year planning what I was going to do next. I did financial planning, I did soul searching, I worked extensively with a coach, I took courses and training, I thought about succession planning and I did all this while I was still in my job. So when I finally announced my departure, all my ducks were in a row. And now that I am well on the other side of having quit, I will tell you that quitting was one of the most positive actions I have taken in my life. I planned and I quit, and I am living a joyful, challenging and fulfilling life!