Build self-confidence for your wedding!

Wedding day jitters is something most brides and grooms experience at some point. So don’t be surprised if you suddenly find yourself stressing out about—everything! Often couples tell me that their biggest concern is about the actual ceremony. Here are three steps to help you overcome any anxiety you might have about your wedding vows and build some self-confidence for your big day.

Practice Saying Your VowsPractice, Practice, Practice!
If you are someone who isn’t used to speaking in front of an audience (well, even if you are someone who gives speeches for a living), it pays to practice! Stand up straight, don’t lock your knees, hold your written vows and read them aloud. I often use my cat as my practice audience because he is very calming—OK, maybe he is sleeping ☺. The idea is to practice in a low stress environment. Practice smiling while you say the words. Practice the timing and pacing. Practice the volume level. Practice breathing in between sentences. Practice, practice, practice—not only directions to Carnegie Hall—builds your self-confidence!

Visualize Your Ceremony AltarVisualize!
Imagine your amazing wedding day. Imagine getting dressed in your beautiful dress or suit. Imagine getting primped and polished on your big day. Imagine how happy and excited you are on that day. Imagine seeing your love in front of you with huge smiles on your faces. Visualizing is a wonderful way to enjoy your wedding right now. You can stop whatever you are doing and feel the energy as if it is your wedding day. And visualizing is a wonderful way to lessen anxiety because you can imagine how you want it to go. In truth visualization is a form of practice (I told you practice is important) that has remarkable power. Athletes use it so why not give it a try?

You are a gem!Affirmations!
One of the best ways to gain self-confidence is with the help of your partner. Ask him or her to sit down with you for a few minutes and take turns asking each other, “What do you love about me?” You will be showered with affirmations about why you are such a wonderful person and why they want to marry you. It is easy to forget in all the craziness of wedding planning that your fiancé/fiancée gets you and knows how magnificent you are. Share affirmations and remember those affirmations whenever you are feeling anxious about your wedding. (I was tempted to make all three bullets about practice, practice, practice.)

Sure, you are the center of attention at your wedding so it can seem daunting. But remember that everyone who loves you and wants you to be happy surrounds you during your ceremony. They will love you whether you are calm as a cucumber or sweating bullets. Be confident because it is your day and you are beautiful and perfectly you!

XOXO Rachel

Published by Rachel Mueller-Lust

I'm a writer, artist, executive & life coach, wedding officiant & Life-Cycle Celebrant®, psychologist, media researcher and teacher. I explore language, relationship & connection, living a fulfilling life and the beauty & wonder of the world.

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