Everything you see this week—in the papers, on-line, on TV—will not so gently remind you that Friday is Valentines Day. Yes, the pressure is on for so many people, particularly the guys, to get their romantic gestures just right. You gotta get flowers, or maybe it must be chocolates, or both. Or you have to arrange for the most perfectly romantic dinner or find just the right item of jewelry (not that I am opposed to any or all of those gifts ☺).
And you better surprise them! What pressure! Yes, you want to show your partner how much you love them, and I certainly agree that you should on Valentines Day (and every day of the year). But do you really know what they find romantic? After all the stress of planning what you think is the perfect Valentines Day, are you giving your love what he or she wants? What you might be surprised to find out is that what your partner wants isn’t necessarily what you think.
So I have a bold idea, ask them! Ask your husband, wife, partner, fiancé, fiancée, love, whoever, “What do you want this Valentines Day?” It kinda doesn’t sound very romantic. But think about it, wouldn’t you love him or her to ask you what you really want for Valentines Day so that you get exactly what you want? The answer you get may be an honest “I want you to surprise me and it better be romantic” in which case you are on your own (though not really because you probably know at least a few things that make him or her happy already, right?) I suspect, however, that when you ask your love what they want, you might be surprised. At the very least, by asking a simple question, “What do you want”, you will have a great conversation. Most likely you will both be rewarded with learning a bit more about what each other wants and needs in your relationship.
So don’t let the pressure for romance perfection on Valentines Day get in the way of enjoying time with the one you love. Take advantage of this holiday to find out what your partner wants and needs in the way of romance. And don’t forget to tell them what you want! Together you will create a very loving day that lessens the stress for everyone. Happy Valentines Day!