Three Ways to Calm Yourself On Wedding Day—No Matter What Happens!

Your wedding day is not going as planned. The weather is not cooperating. Your bridesmaid spilled something on her dress. Your aunt Ruth is acting up—you get the picture. I have good news! Whatever happens on your wedding day, it will be a wonderful day. Really, no matter what! But to help you prepare for when something doesn’t go quite as planned, here are 3 things that you can do that will help to calm and cheer you. Instead of saying something only a bridezilla would say that offends others when something goes wrong, you will act with calm and grace!


Sure, you can’t help but breathe, but what I mean is to really take in a deep inhalation and enjoy the air. Take a slow inhale and then exhale—count it as one. Then take another slow inhale and then exhale and count it as two. Do this for ten times and if you need to repeat, go ahead. You will feel calmer no matter what in no time.

Smile like a happy Buddha!Smile.

Smile, even if you feel like frowning or—perhaps—crying. Because you can’t help but feel like you are happy when you force a smile on your face. It’s true! Try making a smile on your face this moment to test my theory. Isn’t that much better?


Move.Move those feet!

Roll your head, wiggle your hips, shake your hands or do an all-out dance. Whatever you choose, make your body move and you will feel more relaxed physically and mentally. One of my never-fail ways to cheer myself up is to put on one my favorite songs and listen to it with a headset. Hearing the song in the headset is key for me—it blocks out the rest of the world so that you can concentrate just on the music—and naturally you start to sway.

Be prepared for anything to happen on your wedding day and handle it with ease and grace. Know that this day is a wonderful day and you will have lots of amazing memories no matter what comes your way. And best of all, this is the just the beginning of your married life with your love!

Tell us what you do to calm down when something doesn’t go as planned—we’d love to hear from you!

XOXO Rachel

Published by Rachel Mueller-Lust

I'm a writer, artist, executive & life coach, wedding officiant & Life-Cycle Celebrant®, psychologist, media researcher and teacher. I explore language, relationship & connection, living a fulfilling life and the beauty & wonder of the world.

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